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07-06-2010, 09:41 AM
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Sounds like a pretty hectic deal. If you make it to CA your husband better make sure you take swimming lessons whether you work on a sub or not. You do wanna enjoy California beaches, don't you??

As for me- I'm in college. I have to make some important decisions about this topic. 3 more years of school till I'm done with my Bachelors degree. After that, if I want to work, I need to legalize. If I want to do a master's I need to legalize. If DA/CIR doesn't work out by then, I'll need to seriously think about marriage.

I don't even know how to tackle that one lol. People have tried to set me up with girls. I've had to politely decline. The girls up here are really sweet too. But it'll take time to find that special girl with all the right attributes that I admire and look for in a long term relationship.
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if you are then let me ask you something?? did your life get easier or more stressful??

let me tell you the difference and i don't care if you or anyone like it or not

Did not marry for a GC whatsoever but i'll tell you why a USC is better

I'll be able to adjust thanx to him
I'll be able to afford a lawyer if i ever need one thanx to him
Don't have to worry about how my bills are going to be paid-- not like i have any anyway
Money isn't a problem. i can afford what i want--- not like i spend money on stupid things
I have health insurance thanx to him
I get to travel around the US thanx to him
I get to drive a nice car thanx to him
ETC ETC

My life is a whole lot better and i thank god every day for bringing this wonderful man in my life. im not saying you cant be happy being married to someone in your situation.. i just feel like it would make things a lot harder. how can you provide for him or her without a job if you don't have any??

ICE can come to my house whenever they want and that's something him as a USC can't prevent
Not as of currently but let me tell you the white girl I was dating was more stressful than anything I had to deal with. It depends on the individual you meet. If the dude you met didn't have the money you would you still marry him? Seems to me you are spoiled and I'm not attacking you, just thinking out loud because now I understand your mentality.
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Did not marry for a GC whatsoever but i'll tell you why a USC is better

I'll be able to adjust thanx to him
I'll be able to afford a lawyer if i ever need one thanx to him
Don't have to worry about how my bills are going to be paid-- not like i have any anyway
Money isn't a problem. i can afford what i want--- not like i spend money on stupid things
I have health insurance thanx to him
I get to travel around the US thanx to him
I get to drive a nice car thanx to him
ETC ETC

My life is a whole lot better and i thank god every day for bringing this wonderful man in my life. im not saying you cant be happy being married to someone in your situation.. i just feel like it would make things a lot harder. how can you provide for him or her without a job if you don't have any??
I'm really not trying to take jabs at you or anything but that's only showing that you're not independant and why your man, who happens to be a USC, is better. I'm married to a USC also... and that's helped me with absolutely nothing... Never cheated. Never layed a hand on her. It just didn't work out. And it was too much of a hassle for her to help me. And it's ok...
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no cuz how in the world would we make it at least one of us has to be legal to get house apt a job ect
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yes i am independent for now.. do you really think i would work illegally while im trying to adjust my status.....

i would never marry someone who doesn't have money. yeah i said it. im not stupid!! i know what i wanted in a guy and i found that person. for your information yes my husband does spoil me but last time i checked i don't let him because i rather save those money!! first of all i paid for my expensive wedding, not my husband, not my parents money. when he met me i was working 3 jobs making awesome money. the whole time we were bf and gf i paid for everything that's what everyone on the sub loved about me. We started living together a week after we met and he also moved in into my mom's house.

you might want to know the whole facts before you start assuming stupid stuff.. if you want to ask my husband about any of this then i'll be happy to give you his cell number. the only expensive thing my husband has ever bought me is my evil husky puppy.. he's never around for my birthday to buy me anything.. last time i checked were a married couple and i have every right to do whatever i want with our money. my husband knows who i am or else we wouldn't have a joint bank account. im getting a mazda CX9 that i'm going to be paying all by myself.. Not his money. MINE!!

im sorry you're marriage didn't work out. that's all im going to say

Don't judge someone you don't know but then again it's not like i care ^_^
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yes i am independent for now.. do you really think i would work illegally while im trying to adjust my status.....

i would never marry someone who doesn't have money. yeah i said it. im not stupid!! i know what i wanted in a guy and i found that person. for your information yes my husband does spoil me but last time i checked i don't let him because i rather save those money!! first of all i paid for my expensive wedding, not my husband, not my parents money. when he met me i was working 3 jobs making awesome money. the whole time we were bf and gf i paid for everything that's what everyone on the sub loved about me. We started living together a week after we met and he also moved in into my mom's house.

you might want to know the whole facts before you start assuming stupid stuff.. if you want to ask my husband about any of this then i'll be happy to give you his cell number. the only expensive thing my husband has ever bought me is my evil husky puppy.. he's never around for my birthday to buy me anything.. last time i checked were a married couple and i have every right to do whatever i want with our money. my husband knows who i am or else we wouldn't have a joint bank account. im getting a mazda CX9 that i'm going to be paying all by myself.. Not his money. MINE!!

im sorry you're marriage didn't work out. that's all im going to say

Don't judge someone you don't know but then again it's not like i care ^_^
If you're so secure and comfortable with your decisions you shouldn't feel the need to explain the aspects of your life to complete strangers. (I'm not attacking you, just saying)
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like i said i don't care if you do nor do i mind explaining myself to you guys.. just being honest
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For me, marriage is not just a social/legal contract or a way to fix my problems, it's more. It's a deep anthropomorphic concept that represents my place in society and the world, as well as that of my spouse. It has a lot of philosophical, religious, psychological and emotional symbolism and emotion attached to it.

So I can understand why some people are taken aback by representations of marriage purely in terms of convenience and self-interest.
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To Luvsherry, congrats to u and u did a right thing. I'm very happy for u. Wish u happy married life and now enjoy ur freedom, u all deserve it.
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yes i am independent for now.. do you really think i would work illegally while im trying to adjust my status.....

i would never marry someone who doesn't have money. yeah i said it. im not stupid!! i know what i wanted in a guy and i found that person. for your information yes my husband does spoil me but last time i checked i don't let him because i rather save those money!! first of all i paid for my expensive wedding, not my husband, not my parents money. when he met me i was working 3 jobs making awesome money. the whole time we were bf and gf i paid for everything that's what everyone on the sub loved about me. We started living together a week after we met and he also moved in into my mom's house.

you might want to know the whole facts before you start assuming stupid stuff.. if you want to ask my husband about any of this then i'll be happy to give you his cell number. the only expensive thing my husband has ever bought me is my evil husky puppy.. he's never around for my birthday to buy me anything.. last time i checked were a married couple and i have every right to do whatever i want with our money. my husband knows who i am or else we wouldn't have a joint bank account. im getting a mazda CX9 that i'm going to be paying all by myself.. Not his money. MINE!!

im sorry you're marriage didn't work out. that's all im going to say

Don't judge someone you don't know but then again it's not like i care ^_^
If you didn't care you wouldn't flip out and explain to me your whole marriage. I'm too young for marriage, that said, I suggest you take your own advice and don't assume.
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