The One That Got Away - Page 3

I was a junior in high school and he was a senior. (US citizen) We lived on the same street. He asked my friends for my number. We talked for about a year but we never dated as he pretty much friend zoned me before he graduated and moved to CA for college.
Approx 5 years later, I received an email from him, casually just checking if my email was still valid. We exchanged a couple short emails. By that time, I was living halfway across the country.

Another 4 years go by before I hear from him again. We had mutual friends on FB so he added me, private messaged a few times. This is where I find out, he was in a relationship.
I let him know about my status situation, but DACA was new at that time and unheard of by most. I don't think he fully understood as I never used the words "undocumented" or "illegal".

Over the years he would private message me occasionally and on my birthday.

Fast foward to 2014, he found out I had moved back to our hometown through a FB post I was tagged in.
He was still in CA but wanted to meet up whenever he was in town visiting his mother. At that time, he was still in a relationship with the same girl and had a newborn. He would message a few times whenever he was in town, without her. Even if it was just lunch, my sense of integrity held me back from accepting the invites. It just didn't feel right and I didn't want to stir any emotions again. As I would surely be setting myself up for disappointment.

When he found out through FB that my brother moved to CA, he told me to send him a message whenever I went out there so we could meet.
Once, he told me how he wished we could have hung out more back in the day. I politely reminded him that he friend zoned me. Haha.

During a week-long visit in town, he sent a kinda sweet message saying that since I always declined his invites, he was still hopeful about running into me somewhere. I can't remember my reply, but we did not meet. By this time he was still with the same girl, had a 2yr old and another on the way.

It has been 15 yrs since we last saw each other in high school. Once in a blue moon, I get a message from him. Just friendly and casual. How's work, family, life?
Many times I wondered what his motives are, especially since he is in a long term relationship and has kids with her. Perhaps just being friendly?
Opinions?

Are you still interesed in him?

2000- I was a freshmen in high school and had a huge crush on a junior, a Freddie Prinze Jr look a like. He only dated white cheerleaders. He was out of my league.
My platonic crush for him fizzled when I later met the guy from the previous post.

2003- I was still in high school, the guy from previous post had already moved to CA. I got my first job at a restaurant. On my first day of work, I found out that my former crush, Freddie Prinze Jr look a like was now my coworker.

We got along well at work, he was dating someone, but occasionally flirted in a playful innocent way. Like walking by me and pinching or poking my side.
Since he had a girlfriend and he was very cute and popular, I sometimes thought he was only trying to hold a carrot in front of me, so I didn't think much of his flirting.
Once day, to my surprise, he told me that he had feelings for me back in the day and was getting the courage to ask me out but he had heard that I was dating the guy from the previous post. In his words, since they were cool with each other, he decided to back off.
Again, he had a girlfriend at the time, so nothing came out of that conversation. I was surprised, I was even mildly heartbroken when I had to come to terms with the fact that he was out of my league. Haha.

Shortly after, he moved to CA. To help his brother run a business.
A few years later, he was in town visiting family and stopped by at the store where I worked. He purchased some stuff, made small talk and then asked if I was married. I replied " No, and you?"
He replied, " No, still waiting for you."

I smiled/ laughed a bit at his joke. And that was it.
I haven't seen him since.

The thought of him can bring a smile to my face.
But with a girlfriend and kids, there is no point in digging up that grave.

A guy broke up with me because I wouldn't take plan b.
He was a great guy...damn

did he move on to plan c?

So did you keep the baby?

I didn't get pregnant. He was exaggerating and wanted to me to take plan b to be safe. I don't like how plan b makes me feel, so I didn't take it.

If he gave you the green light would you hit it?

even though he has a gf?

No. I might have stated it in my post.