Relationship Problems - Page 18

Get a new one.

I can't do that to her. That's messed up.

I'm in the same boat. He's lazy and has severe ptsd from military war shit. I thought he was fine at first but it went down hill after marriage. We barely have sex. Maybe once a month. He doesn't get it that his ptsd stresses me out and puts me off sex. And not to mention other emotional and rape problems he had from childhood.

We pretty much came to an agreement that we'll stay together while aos goes through and he needs my support for his ptsd. His family shows no support and he was suicidal when he lived at home.

You really just gotta put your foot down and have clear needs. I need the house clean and he does it. And he even said I can get a lover and stay together. Were 2 guys btw
. I know women can be more prudish than gay men.

I guess what I'm saying is put it all out there and agree not to scream or raise your voice. Sometimes you just have to walk away.

Practical of you to stay together until AOS is done.

Sorry for what you are going through. I briefly dated someone with depression and he wanted to get married and offered AOS. I took everything in me to walk away. As much as I wanted to, I knew I deserved better but again, we dated very briefly. Had we been together for years, I would have probably sucked it up.

Some days it was unbearable until we decided to stay together for emotional support instead of a romantic relationship. Mental illness keeps people from having fulfilling relationships. I really don't think it's possible to enjoy life like that

I would also urge you to not loose your sanity in the process. Somedays it can become difficult to separate their baggage from yours! Confide into a friends, therapist or us - whatever you need!

you got big balls dude.

You have my respect.

I feel for bad this guy. You’re taking advantage of him. Clean the house and you can take another lover while he stays with you just so you can have your papers. And he has rape and abuse problems from his childhood as well as PTSD from war and no support from his own family. And you’re the one getting stressed out and not getting sex? Imagine how he feels. I really feel for this guy. I hope he gets the help he needs professionally and someone who loves and supports him instead of being taken advantage of. Bless this poor man.

Unless you have been in love with someone who is broken beyond repair, shut your trap! It is toxic and draining to love someone who cannot love themselves. They need professional help, yes. You cannot live with someone who is that broken and not hurt yourself (your sanity) in the process.

This is not a movie. This is a real life. Love does not conquer all!

That's not the whole story. He has severe ptsd to the point that he is 100% disabled and cannot work. He wakes up in night sweats remembering horrible shit. We've been together for 3 years before marriage but he went off meds because they made him suicidal or so sleepy he flunked school.

I am in no way using him. He needs to do something with his life, at least clean up after himself or do a hobby because I know that depression can fuck you up. I've been there. Sleeping for days, feeling like not having a future. But his condition is so much worse than the worst depression I've ever had.

Our relationship just went downhill when we moved in together. For the first time since he came back from Afghanistan, he was living in a big city. He was from a tiny nowhere town!

He knows he's tough to deal with but I'm the only person he has. His family doesn't support him and his so called military brothers don't keep in touch or when they do it's for money.

He didn't get psychotherapy, counseling or anything until I encouraged him. His family just left him locked up in his room. I took him to the chiro and they discovered his spine was fucked up and were fixing it.

So fuck you for saying I'm taking advantage of him. People fall out of love or lust or start feeling like others problems are their problems. Sometimes I catch myself stalking my surroundings like he does. His sickness was becoming my sickness.

We are there for each other no matter what. We know our relationship has reached a stalemate but that doesn't mean we are going to be out of each other's lives.